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Jenelle Simone Valle joins Modern Day Matchmaker Live Event in NYC!

Actress & Radio personality Jenelle Simone Valle , joins host Paul Carrick Brunson on the New York stop of his nationwide tour. The Modern Day Matchmaker LIVE: Real Relationship Talk" tour, will be a thought-provoking evening of dialogue and discussion from relationship experts, bloggers and surprise special guests with their fingers on the button of urban relationship culture. They’ll tackle topics on life, dating, marriage and modern-day love.

As one of the featured special guests, Jenelle Simone Valle, will take to the stage and perform a scene from ‘Together-Apart”. The critically acclaimed play captures the essence of human relationships showcasing the highs & lows of the male/female dynamic. Actress Jenelle Simone Valle, helps drive the point home in her dramatic portrayal of an independent, powerful and successful black woman trying to balance her work life with her personal life. Can she have it all?

Don't miss out on a Jenelle’s thought-provoking performance and an evening of dialogue and discussion. The nearly sold-out event will have everyone talking!

WHAT: “The Modern Day Matchmaker LIVE: Real Relationship Talk” Tour

WHEN: Thursday, June 3rd, 2010, Showtime: 8pm

WHERE: Providence Lounge, 311 West 57th Street

ABOUT JENELLE SIMONE VALLE:

Jenelle Simone Valle has appeared in several high profile network campaigns, including landing the lead model Role in BET's "Rip the Runway". Jenelle currently showcases her natural, easy-going, personality in a live, interactive weekly radio program, The Listening Party with Jenelle Simone, every Tuesday night from 8-10 pm on 90.3FM (also on USTREAM). Jenelle made her film debut in the movie "Hitch" and co-starred in the 2008 critically acclaimed independent film, "The City Is Mine". Her additional television credits include roles on the NBC Emmy Award-winning series "Law & Order," Fox's "The Jury" and the 2006 VH1 series "Love Monkey," starring Tom Cavanagh and Jason Priestly.

New Reality Show Casting for Singles in Brooklyn This Summer

NEWS FLASH: Single? Looking for Love? Live in Brooklyn?

A television show is seeking guys and girls aged 21 to 30 living in Brooklyn, NY. Interested applicants must be smart, funny and single who want to have a great summer in Brooklyn and in addition must be available for an 8-week production schedule beginning in July. Send your name, age, three photos and describe why you are perfect for the show to:

brooklynbeachcasting@gmail.com or visit RPDBcasting .com.

It's Professional. It's Personal.

Fine tuning the balance between professional and personal stability is always a hard gamble, but it's do-able. Young professionals, especially, give themselves a to-do list of things they want to accomplish, people they want to meet, and relationships they want to develop - there seems to be a fine line between hard-work and fate, between choice and destiny. How do you know the difference? If you're trying your hardest and the dots aren't connecting, does this mean it's not meant to be or that you should try harder? These are questions that I have pondered over and over again. As I interact with professionals and up and comers, I start to understand that these thoughts are universal and is seemingly a never ending chase to attain an ideal that you never really know exists or not. It could or it could not, it's just a chance you have to take. You have to give yourself one of those pep talks and in grain in your head that if I try hard or harder or even harder, it'll all come together. But the end result is never foreseeable when you need it to be, so for months or years on end we run in darkness and walk in faith. The years of our 20s seemed so fun and innocent as a college party-hopper, but after graduation reality sits in as soon as the first cheerful person with an intriguing mind wants to know, so "what are you going to do with your life?" At that precise moment, it seems like the safety net has just dissolved and we literally have to learn how to survive as a little fish in a big pond. The first couple years are tough, at least for those seeking higher advancement. This story is very familiar to those who aspire to be better, to do better. I mean really, if you're even considering elevating yourself then you're one step ahead of the game. I'll spare you the cliche speeches that we've all heard before - "just be patient baby, you're time is coming!" In the interim, while you're waiting your turn to receive the golden ticket, it's the web of support that's so critical. Sharing stories and hearing your girlfriend say, "girl that same thing happened to me" or sharing a moment of frustration with your co-worker truly helps in those breaking moments when you feel like giving up. Or you read your horoscope and it gives you words of wisdom that you desperately needed to hear. Or you see your friend paving a way and you get inspired. Or you pray and somehow all your problems don't seem so mind boggling. There is no road map to success or failure or even a pit stop to let us know we're headed in the right direction. However, what is certain is that our experiences and life lessons will better prepare us for that next step in our personal and professional lives. So, just when you want to fall off the band wagon and call it quits, think about how far you've come and how blessed you are. Creating a web of support is the ticket to making ourselves be that Energizer bunny that keeps going and going and going. Make that call or visit that friend...remember, it takes a village!

It's about YOU, it's NOT about the JOB!

It's not JUST about finding a j-o-b...it's about being fulfilled and securing a future! A happy, secure, and fulfilled future (and present). I encourage you to think about your future for a minute. Pause and Think right now................................................................................................................................................................................................. What do you want, where do you want to be, what makes you happy, what are you most passionate about, how can you earn a living doing what you are interested in? Forget about what other people may say, what society's expectations are of you are, escape your fears and inhibitions. THIS IS ABOUT YOU RIGHT NOW. What is this really about?! Really digging deep and laying a path that grants you all that you want and more. No one said it would be easy, but thinking about your future now, will pay off in the long run. Do it for your future family, kids, for your future sanity. Ever need a contact or wanted to call someone to help you get a job or needed career advice and had no one to call??? I'm sure we've all felt like that at one time or another, well it's time to change that. We have to be the difference we seek - we have to be that person that others can call on for advice, for a word of encouragement, or a job. We have to set ourselves up for success, someone will need us one day! Whether it's working in management, working as an artist, working in retail, working in the corporate world, working in finance, working in beauty, or fashion, or marketing, or for the government, or starting your own business, or something that no one has ever heard of ---> think about if you are happy and if you are living up to your full potential. If your answer is yes, you have won half the battle. If your answer is no and you feel stuck, it's never too late. Start here, start right now. Seek out the best in yourself and go after your dreams. You'll appreciate it later. If I have learned nothing else from my working experience, it's that you have to be happy in order to be your best. It's more than just a job. You have to feel needed, appreciated, valued, and feel a sense of security from those around you. I am not advocating that every job will be a piece of cake and that everyday will be blissful. What I'm saying is that life is too short to hate 80% or more of your day. So, if this is you - figure out a plan B. Most of the time, circumstances can't change in one day, but if you start strategizing how you can ultimately be your happiest, then plan B will come one day. When we are in an uncomfortable position, it forces us to be creative and find a way, where there is seemingly no way. I am not suggesting that we need to be stressed out and try to create ways for us to be rich, famous, the president of a company, or anything weird or far fetched (not that any of these things are)- I am merely advocating for us to be the driver in our world of happiness and security, for us to make passionate decisions where we feel that we are making a difference, we matter. No one can make that decision for us. We all have something that we are good at, why not turn that into a career. It can be done. Just take another moment to think......................................................................................so as of today, let's plan for our future. Let's do it for our future families, for our future selves, for all those who sacrificed so that we could be all that we can be, for us! We deserve it! If you get nothing else from being a FAB reader or becoming a FAB member, please take this away from us...you are the determining factor in your success and joy - no one else. Take the time to figure out how professional success and personal happiness can be your life! FAB will!

Managing work and relationships...can we ever successfully have both?

Relationships...tricky subject and a peculiar beast to analyze but we must consider the importance of relationships when considering a happy and healthy adulthood. Relationships are of course not mandatory but they are the icing on an already tasty cake...even though it's really good, having that extra cherry on top is always nice. That's the positive side of relationships. But, what happens when work is booming and your relationship is sour. Bomber, I know! Having a successful career and managing a healthy relationship (especially in a larger city) is often hard to juggle but it can be done, I'm assuming. Dating professionals is often like interviewing potential candidates that you want to hire - you find out their past history, strengths, weaknesses, what they can bring to the table and then the inevitable question...what position are you hiring for?! Sometimes people are prepared for the wrong job interview and now the high seas begin to rise. Just as we are particular about our careers, our promotions, and our desire to succeed - that same time and care must be placed on attaining a relationship. Both a job and having a relationship are full-time employment and it takes dedication and care to maintain them both. So, the question still remains how do you successfully have both? I am not a relationship guru and still on the journey to finding that answer myself, but will say this - being yourself, working hard, and striving to be the best individual that you can be is all anyone can ever ask of you, whether it's work or personal. If you are dually employed (job and relationship) and happy with both employment opportunities - don't take either for granted. We are in a recession right now (for jobs and worthwhile relationships) so hold on to what you have and work hard to maintain both! After all, you deserve the best! It's all a learning curve, so yes, we can successfully have both - just make sure you're prepared when the right job calls looking for you - whether personal or professional!

FAB Readers... any thoughts on this matter??